Every Sunday

Every Sunday I am going to write something on this blog.

Becoming an adult.  What does this mean?

I have been giving this a lot of thought lately and what I have come up with is…   When you have reached the point that you take care of yourself; then you are an adult.  I don’t mean that you feed and cloth yourself I mean that you become like the mother and father that you wish you had.

You may have had a great mother and father and that is fine but I am talking about taking the next step and giving yourself the love you deserve and also being the motivator that you need.  You are capable of so much more.  You can reach your dreams when you stand on your own two feet and become accountable for your life.  You know when you need the coach that wakes you up early in the morning to get things done and you know when you need to cut yourself some slack and not ride yourself for not getting things done.  Be the person that you want to be.  Become an adult.

Which is louder actions or words?

I have been giving some thought lately about how many times I have chosen to change my situation (job) because of the people that I work with.

I used to just say I don’t like it at this job, find a new job and move.  I didn’t really look to deeply into the situation.  Thinking back on these situations it was usually people that I was trying to get away from.  People that made me uncomfortable about myself or maybe people that made me realize how uncomfortable that I am with myself.

As life moved on I started recognizing that I had more control of my situation than I thought I had.  At this point, I used to try to talk to the people around me.  I had done quite a bit of work on myself and my attitude so I wanted to share.  I used to talk people ears off.  I was probably one of those folks who was guilty of giving unsolicited advice.

I am at a different point now.  I see the situation that I am in.  I recognize that the people around me could probably benefit from my experience.  I am also reasonably sure that if I talk about this situation, they won’t hear me.  IE If I try to bring it up in conversation I will just make them feel defensive and I will be giving unsolicited advice again.  So what should I do?

Paying attention to my gathered experience, I am choosing to protect my attitude by focusing on doing what I need to do, keeping busy.  Focusing on keeping my attitude where I want it to be and wait.  Maybe they will ask me how I can remain calm and happy maybe they will not.  But I am pretty sure that they will hear my actions and not my words and the mean time I will be protecting my attitude.